We finally sold the toddler bed that had been on it’s side between the end of our bed and the bookcases in our bedroom for the last month. Over that last month, a whole heap of detritus had accumulated on top of the bed and books piled to the side (as I couldn’t get to the bookcase). So with the bed being picked up this morning I had to quickly unearth it and stick the junk on our bed and now I’ve got to clear our bed if we want to sleep on it tonight. My bedroom is really the equivalent of a lot of people’s spare rooms, in that it’s used to store ‘stuff’, unfortunately though we don’t have a spare bedroom but you can imagine what it’s like.
So, that’s what I’ve been doing this morning, in the midst of more screaming tantrums from Girl Lacer who is getting so tired she could drop, roll on school holidays! The tantrum today was because Girl Lacer had put a stuffed toy on a chair and she was worried Boy Lacer would move it, so she predatoryily guarded the soft toy and as Boy Lacer came close she said “If you touch it, I’ll bite you,” whilst menacingly barring her teeth. This understandably upset Boy Lacer who tried to swipe her away, which (Girl Lacer wasn’t aware I had just come into the room and saw everything), Girl Lacer embroidered the swipe to be a pinch and then had a tantrum when I didn’t believe her and then told her off for threatening to bite Boy Lacer (Boy Lacer at the moment does not bite, I do not want him picking up nasty habits from Girl Lacer). So she screamed in her room for half an hour, I feel for our neighbours.
On a similar thread though, with Boy Lacer’s upcoming ‘diagnosis’ appointment very much on my mind, I’ve been wondering if it is autism, how / what do we tell Girl Lacer? I have a friend who’s eldest is autistic and her four year old son seemingly (so far) hasn’t even noticed the ‘difference’ yet apparently but in Girl Lacer’s case, I know that she has certain behaviours that actively upset Boy Lacer, even though most of the time she’s brilliant with him. Girl Lacer is quite a bossy child and can lecture a bit, take for example the daily breakfast cereal conflict, Boy Lacer gets upset if he thinks he’s not going to get his crunchy nut and he can very easily misread the situation (even though he always gets his crunchy nut) and think just because someone else has asked for something else it means that he’s not going to get what he wants, so he gets upset. So Girl Lacer repeats to him over and over again “You’re getting your crunchy nut, you’re getting you’re crunchy nut” which upsets him even further, even though she’s only trying to help and his current method of trying to shut people up is trying to put his hand in their mouth, which therefore upsets Girl Lacer an although obviously I tell Boy Lacer off, I also have to tell Girl Lacer that she was sort of asking for it as Girl Lacer should have been able to tell he was getting more and more upset and I’ve told her so many times that if she see thinks she’s upsetting Boy Lacer to stop whatever she’s doing and back away, she just hasn’t got it yet. Same with the handwashing, other than a momentary success the other day, Boy Lacer still won’t wash his hands, Girl Lacer tries to get him to do it, again only trying to help but she gets overly bossy and insistent and it gets Boy Lacer in a tizzy and of course he isn’t then going to wash his hands.
Anyway, where was I? I went majorly off track there. So I have a bed to clear, I’ve been slowly unearthing, unfortunately though just making the messy pile into a series of slightly less messy, smaller piles but like in an archaeological dig, I came across the kids old soft toy hanging storage thingy, which used to fit in their room but now doesn’t and it’s still full of soft toys (which Girl Lacer is now having a ball rediscovering) and I just haven’t got a clue what to do with the soft toys! The obvious solution (the great big black dustbin or the charity shop), I really don’t think Girl Lacer will allow.